Take Control of Your Life

I used to care what everyone thought about me. And that prevented me from doing a lot of things.

I’m not exaggerating when I say that.

I cared about what my family thought I was doing with my life. So I focused on getting good grades and having a successful career. I was living my life for not only myself but for the praise of others. My career on Wall Street and my MBA degree made other people proud of me. But I was never fulfilled professionally.

I cared so much about what my friends thought about me that it affected the decisions I made in life. I didn’t do a lot of things because I was concerned about what my friends would say or how they would feel if I didn’t act/think the same way as them. It was crazy how much I cared more about what they thought than my own happiness.

And I’m not even talking about random people today. I know a lot of times, we don’t do things because we are afraid of what people might think. By people, I mean everyone. But today I’m just talking about the people closest to you.

Everyone has an idea of how you should live your life.

But the only person you should listen to is yourself.

Sure, you can take advice or suggestions from others, but always remember that the way you live your life ultimately rests with you. Your friends and family cannot live your life for you.

The truth is: Not everyone will understand the things you do.

And that’s okay.

Accept that not everyone will understand. Accept that not everyone will be supportive.

If  you care what everyone thinks, especially the ones you admire and have a relationship with, you may be limited in your full potential. Your dreams and goals in life may never be achieved because you care too much.

Just accept the fact that not everyone will understand. I can’t say this enough.

  • People are going to question why you’re doing what you’re doing.
  • People are not going to believe what you want to do is possible.
  • People are going to talk about you behind your back.
  • People are going to make fun of you.
  • People are going to be jealous of you.
  • People are going to hope you fail.

It happens. And there is nothing you can do to change how they feel. Just do you.

Don’t waste any energy worrying about what people think. All that matters is what YOU think.

I can tell you with a high degree of certainty that not a lot of people were supportive when I decided to quit my job to become an entrepreneur. They didn’t understand why I would do such a foolish thing. I was making good money, I had stability, insurance, and life was good. But to me, there was more to life than just being a drone sitting in front of the computer.

If I listened to everyone that told me to find another job or just stay at my current job, I wouldn’t have the life I have now. I make more money than I did working and I have more time to be creative and focus on things that I find interesting. This was only possible because I knew there would be people that didn’t understand and I had to ignore them.

I have a second YouTube channel that focuses on technology. Can you imagine the weird looks I get when I tell people about my channel? Not everyone understands how great YouTube is. Not everyone understands why you would ever put yourself on the internet for the world to see. But really, if they don’t understand, they don’t understand. I don’t need to defend what I do. I don’t need to make you understand. I do things because I want to do them and I know where I am and where I want to go.

Then there are those that don’t really understand To Be Alpha. Now, you and I both know that To Be Alpha is all about empowering/improving people and taking control of your life. But not everyone gets that. There will always be people that wonder why do self-improvement sites exist. There is a certain audience that gets what we’re trying to do here, but not everyone will. It happens. It’s to be expected. But there’s no way I would just shut down To Be Alpha because some people don’t understand the goal of To Be Alpha.

The above were just a few examples of how I accepted that not everyone will understand why I do what I do, but I ignore the noise and just do what I know I should do.

You know what you’re capable of. You know what you want to do.

  • We all have dreams.
  • We all have goals.
  • We all want a better life.

Don’t let someone stop you from going after what you want.

Next time you want to do something and you get push back from family, friends, peers and others. Ignore the noise. Trust yourself. And go for it.

Things have worked out pretty well for me because I’ve accepted the fact that not everyone I know will understand why I do what I do.

I hope you accept the fact that you can’t please everyone. You can’t make everyone see the vision you see. You can’t make everyone happy.

You can either let people stop you from doing what you want to do. Or you can ignore the noise and just do it. I promise if you choose the latter, you will not regret it.

Be Bold. Be Alpha.

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