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How to Be “Cool” in College

What up aspiring alpha males. So if you read in one of my more recent posts I said I was going to help the college guys (and girls) out since college is just about starting again. Fall and September depending on where you go to school, if you’re on the quarter system or the semester system….you get the idea.


Now you might be entering your first year or maybe your second, third…fourth, fifth…or grad school. Whatever the case may it’s all good. I was lucky enough to go to college – undergrad and graduate school so I’m speaking from first hand experience.

College isn’t for everyone. But if you’re going to go, you should at least know how to become alpha and be part of the cool kids crowd.

Side note: I was just sent the wikihow link on How to be cool in college and I have to say it’s terrible! I can’t say it enough, only listen to people that have experience. That wikihow article on How to be cool in college should be titled How to be a dork in college and have a geeked out life.

How I was cool in college –

  • I moved away for college (ovrer 400 miles away)
  • I knew one person from my high school going to college.
  • I was given a partial academic scholarship and offered a scholarship to other schools to play golf.
  • Economics and Computer Science Major (not that cool but impressive to many)
  • Studied abroad (not enough people do this)
  • Pi Kappa Alpha Fraternity (joined the top house but was given bids to join multiple houses)
  • Lots of friends (girls and guys)
  • Pretty social
  • Girls loved James King 😉
  • Bunch of other stuff….read below to learn how you can be cool in college.

What You Need to Do

In no particular order – here’s a list of things you need to be cool in college

Be In Style

You have to dress cool if you want to be cool. What you wear is no joke. College is very superficial, whether you like it or not. You’re either in or you’re out.

Chances are when you go to college you’ll see what’s in and what’s out. If you are observant enough, you’ll be able to tell what type of “look” girls are attracted to. The other way to go find out what is hot and what is not is to copy some of the celebrities that everyone is into right now.

What you don’t want to do is just dress average and think you’ll be cool. People stereotype you when they see you and when they first meet you so make sure they categorize  you how you want to be categorized. Don’t make it harder on yourself by dressing like a loser.

Work Out

Not having enough time to go to the gym or to work out is not a valid excuse when you’re in college. You might not realize this but you have a lot of free time on your hands. What you do with it is up to you. But I’m sure you can spare 45-60 minutes a day to hit the free weights or do a little run.

There are two reasons you should work out –

1. It makes you feel better about yourself.
2. Girls love muscles (at least in college)

I rest my case.

Have Cool Friends

Your friends will make your college experience. If you’re smart, you’ll make friends in a variety of social circles. You should have friends in your classes, friends you work out with, friends you party with, friends you hang out with…maybe they’re all the same friends. It doesn’t matter.

What you need are some cool friends that make you a better person. Guys and girls that can introduce you to other people. Friends that can help you study. Friends that you can party and work out with. People that you can talk to and joke around it.

You’ll be judged by who you know and who you hang out with – so make sure you’re hanging out with the right people.

Join a Good Fraternity

You don’t have to join a fraternity but from my experience it makes a lot of sense to. Everyone has this misconception that joining a fraternity is for douche bags that just want to party and hook up with girls. Sure that happens but it’s not just about that.

Joining a Fraternity gives you something to do. Meetings, social events, parties, volunteering… Plus it multiples the number of people you will meet and know so many times over.

You even have leadership opportunities being in a fraternity which will help you out for the rest of your life.

As long as you don’t become the douche bag frat kid that just thinks he’s cool because he drinks beer and is in a fraternity then you will get a lot of out being in one.

* yes I know everyone is suppose to spell it Fraternity and not fraternity…but whatever.

Get Above Average Grades

Don’t ever forget why you’re in college. As much fun as college is, life will be even more fun when you’re making good money and doing something you want to do because you studied hard in college.

No one ever said you can’t be smart and cool or have fun and also get good grades. It’s all about having balance. Study your ass off but also have as much fun as possible.

You want to be the guy that knows what is going on not the one that is trying to play catch up and understand what the professor is saying. So stay focused. Ask for help when you need it. Study when you have to study. Do the work. And watch people ask you to help them. You’ll be money.

Know a Bunch of Girls

Who doesn’t want to know a bunch of pretty girls? Every guy is going to wish he was you for the sole reason that you know a bunch of girls. And chances are other girls will either be curious to know who you are or think you’re just an attention whore (but whatever). Pay them no mind.

The goal here is to be cool. Make friends with girls. Hang out with them. Eat with them. Become more comfortable around them. You’ll be the guy everyone wants to know how you know so many people.

Hang Out at the Student Center

To be cool you must be noticed. There’s usually a certain area on every college campus where people meet up, hang out, eat and congregate. Pretty much what I’m saying is you need to be seen.

If you’re never around or just appear out of the blue you’ll be irrelevant. You need to be social, you need to be around. Hang out where everyone is to keep up with what’s going on, catch up with people and make plans.

Be on Campus

College is your chance to live by your rules. No longer under your parents’ roof, you can sleep in if you want. You can skip class. You can go to the beach (if you went to school in LA like I did). But similar to the last section on Hanging out at the Student Center, you should be on campus as much as possible so you get the most out of your experience.

Remember, it’s about being relevant. You can’t be relevant if you’re never around. Plus I’m not going to tell you that going to class isn’t important, because it is.

Use Social Media

I don’t want to date myself but when I was in college we had friendster, myspace and facebook was just starting out. We had AIM (AOL Instant messenger for you younger guys). I didn’t have twitter, vine, instagram or snapchat. But here’s what I can tell you…

Don’t be too cool to start using tech apps and gadgets that are “cool”. You want to be in the know. You want to be cool. So use what’s cool. Don’t try to be anti-cool or you’ll miss out.

Have the Everyone Loves Everyone Attitude

There’s a lot of drama in college and it’s not just with girls. At some point your roommate will get on your nerves, your best friend and you will get in a fight…and so forth. Try to stay away from the drama. It’s not worth it.

I’m not telling you to not be loyal. You should always be loyal to people but don’t go around getting involved in the unnecessary drama. Don’t make enemies for no good reason. People will just start talking shit on you.

The Myth of Being Cool In College

Everyone that is about to go to college has ideas in their head what college is going to be like. And guys and girls that go but drop out think they know what college is like but they never really fully experience it so it’s hard for me to say they really know what they are talking about.

College isn’t all about sex, drugs and alcohol. Everyone goes there with the goal of getting an education and finding a good job afterwards. But what you get out of college is how to learn. You grow as an individual and you should learn to think differently.

With that said, let’s discuss some of the myths about how to be cool in college.

Party Like a Rockstar

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking the only way to be cool is to party every day and never study. You’ll regret it later in the year when you’re playing catch up with your academic work.

I’ve known people that had so much fun in college and were really cool…they got kicked of out college and had to go to community college. Not too cool after that.

Everyone’s Getting Laid (except you)

You might think if you’re not having sex you’re not cool. That’s not really true. Sure some guys going to be hooking up a lot but it doesn’t make them more of a man then you.

Don’t get caught up with this whole “I gotta have sex” thing. If you’re a cool guy and surround yourself with enough people it will happen. Don’t force it.

Cuss like a Motherf*cker

Don’t be an idiot. Some guys seem to really believe just droping F bombs and cussing is going to make them look cool. Sure it’s funny but after awhile it’s annoying and just stupid. Be mature it will make you stand out.

You Have to Be Rich

So many guys have this victim mentality that they can’t do this or do that because they don’t have a lot of money. News flash – it’s college. You are suppose to be poor and living on a budget.

There are plenty of things you can do on a budget and still be cool. It’s college. You don’t need money to have fun. You just need good people.

Cutting Class is Cool

Once in awhile, cutting class is worth it. Cutting all the time to sleep more or just to hang out with guys and girls when you can hang out with them an hour from now is not worth it.

Remember when you’re there for. And remember the smart guy is actually going to be the one everyone wants to know when exams come around.

Acting “Hard” is Alpha

Don’t get in fights. You’ll look like a complete tool. Acting hard is for idiots. You’re better off just learning how to fight so if you have to defend yourself you can kick somone’s ass (but only do this as a last resort).

So There You Have It

This is the first of a series of post that will be on the college life. We’ll over everything from studying techniques, learning, how to party, how to join a fraternity and how to prepare for life after college.

Let us know how this guide helps you out!


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  • Sam

    Hey James,
    Can you make a post about conversations, what to say to people and how to make friends?

    • No problem Sam. I was going to focus on how to rush a fraternity next but that can wait. Do you want conversations that are more college based (since you’re posting this on this article) or just in general in order to connect with people and build your network?

      • What I’m going to give as examples should cover everything for you so never mind on my question above. Give me a few days though to put it together.