Take Control of Your Life

You can’t predict the future, so stop trying. Instead, just be alpha.

A lot of us don’t do things because we are scared of the outcome. Some of us are scared of success, while others are scared of failure or rejection. But all this worrying is a waste of your time.

I’ve recently been reminded of something that I even forgot for awhile – having fun is #1.

In whatever you do in life, if you’re not having fun,  you should not continue to do it.

Let’s talk about why having fun is important and how you can do that. 

Why Have Fun?

1) You will thrive in an environment

No matter what environment that is. Be it work, partying, working out, doing boring tasks….if you do it and it makes you happy, you’ll do it better.

I can tell you from personal experience that having fun changes everything. When you’re doing work you enjoy and are excited about, the hours go by like seconds and you want to keep at it. Same with sports or watching videos/tv…even talking on the phone or being with someone that makes you laugh and feel good.

Think about the days when you just met a girl (or guy) and were so into them that you could spend hours into the middle of the night talking to them. You just get excited and are so happy. That’s the feeling you want in whatever you do. And if you’re not getting that, keep looking.

2) You won’t be scared of making mistakes 

When you’re caught up in the moment of enjoying life you aren’t in your head thinking “don’t f*ck this up, don’t look like an idiot…” You just go with the flow.

I’m talking about not being afraid of saying something stupid or doing something wrong. You are okay just trying things and seeing how it works out.

A lot of us are afraid of making mistakes because we want to be perfect (beta males in particular). Instead of just doing something and going through trial and error of learning by failure, we read and read and read and try to become perfect before we do a single thing. This has even happened to me in the past.

First with programming, I didn’t want to write bad code and debug it so I just tried to study coding. That was dumb because mistakes are going to happen and that’s how you learn. Even with girls, I didn’t want to look like an idiot so I would just wait for the right situation and try to have all the right things to say. (It never works out that way). And even now with putting up videos, I’m hesitant because I want to put up really good videos for you guys.

But the truth is, you just gotta have fun with things and if you fail or mess up, laugh it off and try again. No one is perfect, so you shouldn’t put that burden on yourself to be. Instead, just have fun trying things out.

3) You take more risks

When you’re having fun, there are no consequences. You let your inhibitions go. You’re out to entertain yourself so you do things that make you happy.

4) You learn easier

Have you ever heard the saying, when you’re having fun, you’ll be more successful? This is probably true in anything in life.

Nothing is harder or easier than anything else. Some people think math is difficult to learn, while others think physics or starting a business is impossible. But the truth is, we dedicate our time and efforts to things that interest us and bring us joy.

We all know what we want to do vs what we are doing. So find ways to do the things you enjoy and you’ll be happier.

When I was figuring out what I wanted to do with my life after I graduated college, the thought of becoming a computer scientist almost brought me tears. I hated the idea that I might have to code for the rest of my life. But the idea of working on Wall Street and being an investment banker got me excited. That’s when I knew what I had to do. I got all the books I could to read and talked to everyone I could talk to about the industry. “It” – banking and finance – came easy to me, because it made me happy.

The same goes with everything else in your life. Hobbies, professional life, love life, whatever….when you do the things that make you happy you will learn to be better at them…not because they are easier but because it is easier for you because you want to learn about it.

5) You become an expert

Similar to #4 when you are having fun and excited about what you’re doing, you inevitably become an expert in the field. I’m not just talking about your professional career. I’m talking about anything you do.

You don’t have to be a super athlete to know everything about basketball or baseball. You don’t have to be the best looking guy in the world to know how to meet women. You don’t have to be a celebrity to know how to make really good youtube videos. Do you get what I’m trying to say?

Having fun is one thing. Learning for fun is the ultimate. You can reach levels of success you never knew you could if you learn for the fun of it.

6) You get excited about doing what you’re doing

Do you wake up excited? Or does that only happen on the weekends? Or never?

Now I’m not going to reference any university studies or anything but I’m pretty sure if you woke up every day excited about whatever you were about to do or excited about the people you were going to be with – you would be 1000% healthier emotionally and physically.

Remember the first day of school? Or Christmas Eve or Christmas Day? You couldn’t sleep because you were so excited to discover what was going to happen. Or you woke up super early because you couldn’t wait. This is real living.

Do you feel like how you did when you were a kid waiting for Christmas? If not, you have to make some changes.

A lot of us seem to believe that there comes a point in life that living is no longer fun or exciting but just something you have to do – like it’s an obligation….and they call it WORK! Yikes.

Anyone that tells you work isn’t suppose to be fun is miserable. They’ve never experienced a job they actually liked. It’s not their fault. They settled. Is that what you will do?

7) More people want to be around you

Happy wife, happy life! Well I’m not married so I don’t know if that’s correct but I can tell you from my personal experiences of doing things I’m happy about and doing things with people I dislike that I’m a lot better to be around when I’m happy. And my happiness is infectious.

When you’re doing things that make you unhappy, it will come through in the way you talk to people, the way you act, and the way you think. You will bring people down and eventually push people away. Don’t do this.

Life is meant to be lived. Do things you enjoy. Talk about things you like. And people will feel drawn to you and want to be just like you.

It’s a domino effect when you are having fun. You do things that make you happy and you make other people happy. It’s a real win-win in life.

So How Do You Start Having Fun?

There are several things you need to do and you need to do them right away if you want to start living a happy life.

I’m going to list these out very simply for you – because this is not rocket science.

1) Figure out what makes you happy

2) Stop doing things that make you miserable

3) Start surrounding yourself with people that want you to do what you want to do and not what they think you have to do

4) Remind yourself that it’s all about having fun. Don’t give a sh*t about what other people think. Just enjoy the present situation you’re in or about to put yourself in.

5) Make it about you. If someone gives you a hard time (rejection, attitude), laugh it off because they don’t understand that it’s all about having fun.

6) If things don’t work out. Joke about it. Don’t give yourself a hard time.

7) I repeat, stop doing things that make you miserable

8) Most important, don’t hang out with people that make you feel like sh*t. Delete their numbers. Ignore them.

Life is really a game. Games are meant to be played because they are fun. Nothing in life is scary if you think it’s exciting.

Sometimes the anticipation is more fun and exciting than the actual experience. Enjoy every part of your life. Every day until you have no more days.

Be Alpha.


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