Take Control of Your Life

Today we are talking about jobs and what to do when you hate your Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Yes! I said Saturday AND Sunday.

  • Are you at the point where every day is miserable because of your job?
  • You dread going to work every morning and on your days off you think about how much you hate your life because of your job?

If this is you, then you need to make some changes!

Okay, I know, I know… There are plenty of websites out there with “Career Coaches” telling you the 5 steps to quitting your job. Or even worse, they tell you to find ways to like a job you hate. What?! Are you serious??

Listen, if you hate your job and it’s really taking away your happiness, you need to make real changes.

You should not be trying to find ways to like your job as these so called Career Coaches tell you to do. That’s some mainstream beta male advice.

I’m here to tell you today and it is okay to quit your job and not have a back up.

If you hate your job. If you think you can do better. If you’re underpaid. If you hate the people you work with…. Keep reading.

Why You Should Listen To Me

I have been in your shoes. I’ve been in jobs where I hated my life. I’m not one of these guys that just write hypothetical situations and give you advice that does more harm than good.

When I hated my work life…

  • I went to bed cursing life.
  • I woke up cursing life.
  • I walked to wrok cursing life.
  • I hated what I did.
  • I disliked the people I worked with.
  • I knew I was better than this.
  • I was smarter than people I reported to.
  • I worked in a toxic environment.

I can tell you about a few of them…

Story #1 – I Lost Interest

One of my investment jobs was great for the first two years. I was making really good money and having a lot of fun. By the third year, I was just not having fun any more.

It wasn’t about the people. It was about the job. I wasn’t challenged any more and I knew I had to make a change. So I found a new job.

Story #2 – It Was The Wrong Environment

After living in Los Angeles, London, New York and Moscow – you get pretty spoiled with “living the life.” That all changed when I moved to the midwest.

Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against the midwest. Midwesterners are some of the nicest people I have ever met. They really show you how you can be happy and friendly. Whereas in the bigger cities its so competitive and cut throat.

Unfortunately, when I arrived in the midwest I didn’t come with an open mind. The opportunity was great and I was leading an investment management division, but I ended up comparing the midwest to the bigger cities I lived in.

I’m pretty flexible and easy to please but when you come into something with a closed mind then you’re doomed. And this is what happened to me. So within 1 year I was out. I moved back to NYC.

Story #3 – It’s All About the People

My last story is about coworkers.

What I’ve realized through the years is that the people really make or break any work experience. These are the people you are going to sit next to for 8 to (in some cases) 20+ hours a day. And if you don’t enjoy sitting next to them or working with them you’ll be miserable.

The unfortunate thing is you never know who you’re really going to work with until you get into the trenches with them. The people I worked with were afraid of their own shadow (super beta) and others didn’t know a thing (don’t know how they got by!). This is just a formula for a toxic environment.

So I left.

Yes, I’m A Quiter! But guess what?

I survived. And I learned from lessons that I can share with you.

I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to live this life if you don’t want to. I’m not really sure how many of these Career Coaches that tell you not to quit your job or give you stupid tips on how to find ways to be less miserable have been in your shoes.

I know it’s a terrible feeling to hate your job. Career wise, there is nothing worse than really hating your job. It overpowers anything positive in your life and makes you a negative person. You become very beta!

The goal in life is to be alpha. Not to be a beta your entire life working away miserably as a peon or subordinate.

We need to figure out what to really do to make the most of your life.

The Truth Is…

When you quit doing what you hate. You have time to do what you love.

There are no guarantees in life. The worst thing you can do is make yourself suffer. You aren’t going to live forever, so stop living a life you don’t want to live.

There’s a great speech I read back in the day. And I still read it once in awhile to remind myself that you need to love what you do. And if you don’t, you have to keep looking. The speech I’m referring to is the 2005 Stanford Commencement Speech by Steve Jobs.

Ask Yourself This One Question…

If you were to die today, would you be happy doing what you’re doing?

If the answer is “No” too many days in a row, you know it’s time to make a change.

Does Quitting Your Job Mean You Are a Failure?

A lot of beta males think quitting is for losers.

Even some alpha males may feel this way. But you need to actually analyze this a little deeper if you want to really see if quitting is right or wrong for you.

Now, let’s think about this from an economic perspective.

Sunk Cost

Sunk cost – A cost that has already been incurred and thus cannot be recovered.

There’s nothing you can really do about the time you’ve spent in a job you hate. It’s a sunk cost. Which means you can’t get that time back or the investment in the job you hate.

Don’t dwell on your current situation and regret being where you are. At least you made some money. Try to be positive so you can move forward.

Opportunity Cost

Opportunity cost – The benefits you could have received by taking an alternative action.

Now onto something more important. And that is the opportunity cost.

Remember when I said if you quit doing what you hate, you can start doing what you love? Well that is the opportunity cost of going to a job you don’t like every day.

By going to a job you don’t like, you lose the ability to do something you want to do. You need to weigh whether you are missing out on something else you could be doing instead.

Everything has an opportunity cost.

So Now What?

You need to figure out what you really want with your career.

It’s one thing to hate your job for whatever reason, but you need to know what it is you want before you make your next move.

I’ve quit jobs before and I’ll probably quit again. But I don’t quit blindly. Figure out what you want to do before you quit.

I’m not saying you need another job before you quit. To me that is an option, but it’s not your only option. Quitting without a new job offer can be ok. I say can for a reason.

If you have savings or want to pursue the entrepreneurial route, then maybe getting another job isn’t right. Or if you want to go back to school and want to focus on applying, then maybe getting another job is not what you need.

All I can say is figure out what you want to do and find ways to pursue that. If that means quitting your job so you can pursue it (opportunity cost) then do it.

This Is Your Life

I know what it’s like.

Right now you hate your life at work for 8 hours (or more) a day. You start thinking about all the other things you could be doing instead. When you’re not at work, you’re thinking about that job you hate and want to quit so bad. It’s a terrible cycle of negativity.

You don’t have to be miserable! What you need is to find a way to be happy.

How To Find Happiness

What is it that you really want to do?

Seriously, in a perfect world, what would you want to do? If you didn’t have obligations and money wasn’t a factor. Be realistic.

Why can’t you do what it is that you want to do? Is it a lack of skills? Lack of opportunity? What is it that prevents you from being happy?

  • Is working for someone the only way for you to have what you want?
  • Can you create the perfect job for yourself?

With the resources available today, almost anything is possible.  All you need is a lot of hustle and heart.

You need to find a way to get out of this toxic situation where you are negative. Once you figure out what you want to do, you need to start finding ways to make it happen.

The idea of quitting too early or quitting too late.

Everything has a cost.

  • If you quit and you can’t support yourself, then you might be quitting too early.
  • If you are going to quit but don’t have a clue what you’re going to do next, then it’s probably too early to quit.
  • If you have something waiting in the wings but are afraid to quit for some external reason, you might be quitting too late.
  • If you have no obligations right now and you can jump ship and take a chance, you might be quitting too late.
  • If you let opportunities pass you by because you want the comfort of

You already know you want to quit. Let’s stop fooling ourselves. The real advice you need is how do you quit and when. What is next?

Hope this helps you figure out whether or not you should be quitting and if now is the time.

Remember – I survived and so can you.

Be Alpha. 


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  • Aaron

    Man this is some real gold. Inspirational while at the same time honest. I haven’t come across a site like this in a long time.

    I see so many posts about career stuff everyday and it’s all rehashed. This is a breathe of fresh air.