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Alpha Tip #64: Make Adjustments

Simple tips to improving your life. That’s what we’re all about at To be Alpha. Today’s tip is common sense but often overlooked in the moment. It’s called Making Adjustments.

When you do something over and over again a few things happen:

  1. You get really good at what you’re do over and over
  2. You get the same results or similar results each time
  3. You see patterns

Creatures of Habit

We are all creatures of habit and we all have our comfort zone. As we get older, the less likely we are to go out of our comfort zone. But therein lies the problem.

If we always do what we have always done, we will get what we have always got.

Now it’s not always a bad thing to do something over and over again. If what you’re doing works, then by all means, keep doing it! Success breeds success!

But if you’re doing something over and over again and NOT getting the results you want, it’s time to start evaluating everything and seeing what you can do differently to start getting the results you really want.

The worst thing you can do if you aren’t getting results is to continue to the same thing that gives you those sh*tty results. Stop right now!

2 Reasons

There are two reasons why you should make adjustments if things aren’t working out how you want them to.

  1. Time is limited. Like really. We will all die one day. You can’t get back time you wasted.
  2. You hinder your own growth or results. It’s as though you want to be a failure.

The Things We Do to Fail

I’m going to give you some examples of things people do over and over again but don’t realize they should probably re-evaluate and come up with a different strategy or game plan. I’m going to give you examples from people I know, people I see, and examples from my own personal life when I was beta. So here we go.

Eating Bad + Going To The Gym

This is idiotic. And I have to admit I’ve fallen victim to this. You go to the gym for 45 minutes to 2 hours and you just kill yourself. You lift hard, go hard, and you’re pumped. But then you leave the gym and go get a burger or go home and eat junk food. Or even worse, you are too lazy to eat. Congratulations, you just wasted your time at the gym.

This happens to so many people. How do I know? Well, you can go to the gym any day of the week and see “regulars” that are in terrible shape. They just think going to the gym and eating poorly is somehow magically going to get them in shape….one day. But it won’t.

The Solution: Learn how to eat right. Meal prep. Mess around what what you eat to figure out what actually works and what is limiting your fitness goals. 

Getting Bad Haircuts

What’s wrong with some of you guys? You know your hair looks terrible yet you keep going to the same place to get that haircut that is uneven or too short. Each time you leave the hair salon or barber shop unfulfilled and sad you went back. Then you use your bad hair as an excuse to not go out or talk to girls because you don’t think you look good.

The Solution: Stop going to the same hair salon! Go somewhere else. Find a better hairstylist. When you find a hairstylist that cuts your hair good, keep going there.

Applying to Jobs Online

What a waste of time. I know a lot of you guys do this and keep asking me to update the career section (we’ll get there eventually!). If you spend your days and nights filling out applications and never get a call for an interview, you would think at some point you would realize you need to find something that is more effective. Stop wasting your time doing something that doesn’t work!

The Solution: Most jobs are obtained through referrals. Find people that can help you with your job search. Work smarter not harder! Especially when looking for a job.

Getting Rejected by Girls

Truth be told, hitting on girls is pretty much a numbers game. But it isn’t completely a numbers game. If you’re a complete beta dork then your chances of success are slim. There are people out there that tell you to hit on 500-5000 girls and you’ll start getting success. Do you know how long it takes to hit on 5000 girls? Imagine if you do that and you still don’t get any girls. How frustrating would that be.

If girls are giving you the stink face each time you go up to a girl. Or if girls don’t even give you the time of day. Or if you always “lose the girl” but being too physical, it’s time to evaluate and make adjustments.

Don’t do what doesn’t work.

The Solution: There is no set in stone rule to getting girls. But you need to evaluate who you are, what you do, what you say, how you act, and how you’re meeting girls if you are not getting the success you want. 

Don’t Just Do What You Know

Figure out what you need to do and start doing that.

Minor adjustments is usually all it takes. Very very minor adjustments. 

Just think about what it takes to make hit a golf ball down the middle of the fairway and what it takes to it to the right or left into the rough. A golf ball and a golf club are so small that it doesn’t take much to be perfect or imperfect. The same goes with making a basket or even something totally different like making a suit. Off by less than an inch and your perfect fitting suit is not so perfect. Minor adjustments are all you usually need to make!

It Might Not Feel Normal

When you make adjustments to what you are currently doing, it won’t feel natural. It’s like telling someone to use their left hand if they are right handed. It takes time, it takes practice. But when you make an adjustment, you’re most likely to be better off than just continuing to go down the same path to failure that you’re going down right now.

Learn to embrace change when change is necessary. Accept that it won’t be comfortable at the beginning. But believe the results will come if you make adjustments, because they will!

Make Adjustments and Be Alpha.

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  • Jeremy

    The “Getting Bad Haircuts” part totally cracked up. lol..some people never really learn. if your hair looks terrible, then its tiem to ask for referrals!!

  • PJClark

    great tips! Im a struggling alpha and im slowly starting to be my very own alpha. Cheers!

  • MM

    Great article! I know it sounds so easy to say to make minor adjustments but to be quite honest, it is very difficult especially when you are talking about getting out of your comfort zone. Im well in my late 30s, single, a few pounds overwieght. What can i possibly do to start making a change and is there hope for me?

  • Albus

    Been a reading a lot of content from your site man and im quite convinced to change my life now, though i still dont know where to start. if I were to be alpha, it will be a total overhaul. Ill see what I can do…

  • Damon

    crazy to bump into you in the city, James! anyways, i wanted to say thank you for both The Book of Alpha and Game Simplified – these really made a huge impact in my life, and you get to take all the credit. Hope to see you around the city some other time.