Take Control of Your Life

This is an alpha lifestyle post.

As much as being alpha is about you it’s also about the other people in your life. I want to really encourage you today to look at the people in your life and evaluate whether or not these are the right people to help you live the life of an alpha male.

I am a firm believer that you are a product of your environment. And your environment includes the people that you surround yourself by.

  • Are they the right people?
  • Are they the wrong people?
  • Do they make you better or worse? Happy or sad?

These are some of the things you need to ask yourself when you evaluate who you are hanging out with. But its not only about the people you hang out with but the people around you (who you work with/for, where you hang out, role models, bosses…)

People You Should Have In Your Life

People Smarter Than You

Sure it sucks to not be the smartest person in the room. But one day you will be, IF you stay hungry and want to be. For some of you guys that aren’t yet there, the best thing you can do is be around intelligent people that are smarter than you. Their intelligence will rub off on you and you will invariably become smarter. The way they think, the things they focus on, the questions they ask – these are some of the things you will gain from being around smart people.

Don’t mistake this advice as me saying you should always be dumber than someone else. That’s incorrect. What we are saying here is be around people that challenge the way you think and what you know. There will come a time you will be the smartest guy in the room.

People that Make You Smile

There’s something to be said about being around people that can make you smile. These people can make you forget about whatever problems you have going on in your life and make you realize that life is really about the simple things in life. People that make you smile will make you enjoy your life even if you guys are just sitting around doing nothing.

Make sure you have people in your life that can make you smile.

People that Help You

The alpha life is about being resourceful not just about knowing people. Knowing the right people is important. Having contacts that can make a call or get you in touch with other people to help you is the alpha way.

Getting help in life really makes things easier. Whether it’s a simple reference to get into a private school or college, to getting referred to a new job, or getting introduced to a new girl…having people in place to help you is what you want.

The opposite of surrounding yourself with people that help you are people that are selfish and takers that just want everything to themselves and never want to lend a hand. Stay away from these betas.

People that Want You to Get Ahead

A lot of people want to see you do well, just not better than them. Kind of shady. These aren’t the people you want to be around. Somehow they’ll bring you down and hold you back.

What you want are the guys and girls that encourage you. The ones that make you believe when you don’t. The one’s that give you the strength to go after what you want when you are hesitant. Surround yourself around the people that are constantly in your ear telling you, you can do this and that, or how awesome you are – chances are they actually believe it. And if you hear it enough, you will believe it too.

People that Get You Out of Your Comfort Zone

Its easy to do what you have always done. Its hard to do things you’re uncomfortable doing. The ultimate alpha will do things he isn’t comfortable doing because he wants to (risk taker, likes the challenge, it excites him), but not everyone is the ultimate alpha. So surround yourself with people that will push you out of your comfort zone. Maybe they’ll join you, maybe they’ll just push you. Either works so long as you get results.

People that push you means you’ll grow as a person.

People that You Look Up To

Role models are important. Don’t blindly go through this world trying to figure things out. Don’t reinvent the wheel. Have role models or people you look up so you can figure out what you should and should not do.

There’s Plenty More

The above are just some of the most important types of people you should have in your life. There are many others depending on where you are in your life. You can include cool people, guys that want to chase girls, people that want to party, people that want to be wildly successful…they have a purpose at some point in your life too but they aren’t as necessary as the ones above.

Remember, this is all about building an alpha lifestyle so you need to make sure you have the right foundation. The people in your life will either help you build your alpha lifestyle or hold you back. When you realize you have the wrong people in your life the best thing you can do is cut the off and move on.

If you don’t have the right people in your life right now, seek them out. If you need help, let us know.

Be Alpha. 

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  • Mark K

    Thanks man,that was inspiring.I’ll try to follow these in my life.

  • Matthew O

    This is really spot on..slowly becoming to be the greatest alpha the female world has seen..though i still need to get out of my comfort zeon more often as this is the only part im struggling with. so far, im smarter than everyone else.

  • KingKing

    Great stuff. My only problem is that my friends are also afraid of taking risks like me. should I start meeting new people? should i go out more often?

    • You can. Or you can accept that your friends are the way they are and you can make time for yourself to take risks on your own? If you don’t have to get rid of people in your life, you shouldn’t. But if people are really holding you back – then you should consider it.

  • Heather

    Hey there. I should say, your site is pretty impressive, in a female’s point of view. I would consider myself as an alpha female and nothing is more attractive than a confident alpha male, and it is quite inspiring to see that there is a site that is dedicated to helping guys be on their “alpha best”. Hope you continue what you are doing and I hope in the future you’ll also have, perhaps, a female section in here.