Take Control of Your Life

Sometimes I have a first sentence that tries to capture your attention. But today, I’m just going to say it: Too many people want to take the easy way out. Too many people want short cuts. They want to cheat their way through life. Unfortunately, it’s very hard to get ahead in life when you do this.

So today’s tip is Do the damn work. 

I have so many stories I can share with you about people that dream big and want to do this and that, but then they either NEVER DO IT or they try and say “this is too hard” and give up.

The sad thing is, if people would just put their head down and put in the work, they’ll come out the other side better than ever. But too many people never make it that far.

It takes hard work to be a world champion. I see it every day on the jujitsu mats. Top level guys pushing themselves day in and day out to be the best. They’re putting in the work. I see what they sacrifice to get to where they are today. Not everyone is willing to do what they’re willing to do to be the best.

It takes hard work to be rich. I know so many people that want to start a business or make more money. But every Friday and Saturday night, they go out and get drunk. On Sundays they watch NFL Football. And then on Monday, they go back to work and complain about how they want to quit and start their own business. I don’t consider myself rich. But I also don’t consider myself poor. But I do consider myself self-made. I’ve created three businesses, share my wealth with my retired parents and family, and have all the time in the world to do as I please. But I didn’t get to where I am today by not doing the work.

It takes hard work to get in shape. Who wants to cook their own food when they can order take out every night. Who wants to go to the gym when its snowing outside when you can sit on your sofa and watch tv. I used to be a gym rat. Nowadays I get to the gym 4-5 days a week (usually at 5am). Friends would ask me for tips. Other’s would complain how hard lifting weights was. Or how they were too tired. I totally understand where they’re coming from. They didn’t want to put in the work. It’s their choice.

It takes hard work to learn how to do something new. Why torture yourself learning a new programming language so you can create the next Facebook or Snapchat. Why study and get good grades when you can browse Reddit. I remember when I was working 80-100 hours a week at Goldman Sachs early in my career. I sacrificed weekends to take a prep course to study for the GMAT so I could get into Business School. Years after, when I was a bond trader, I signed up for courses at NYU to re-educate myself on coding (I was a computer science minor). And then I learned how to rank on google years after that (probably a reason why you found this website). Learning something new isn’t easy. I did the work. And so can you. But many choose not to.

Enough with the examples. Enough about me.

The main goal of today’s Alpha tip is GET YOUR HANDS DIRTY.

Put in the work.

If you don’t put in the work, nothing changes.

You can quit. You can take shortcuts. You can half ass it. But you won’t get the results you want if you don’t put in the work.

I don’t know what your goals are. Feel free to share them with me. Maybe I can help you out. But here’s what I know

  • It’s not always going to be easy. But persevere.
  • Getting started is usually the hardest part.
  • There will be pain periods that you will second guess why you are doing what you are doing. Don’t give up.
  • At some point you will see real results that will excite and motivate you. Life gets better once you reach this stage.

I’ve never met a person that put in the work and regretted it. But I have met a lot of people that gave up or never tried that live with regret.

Sometimes you have to make choices in life. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to get what you want. And most of all, you have to put in the work. Whatever your goals are -> Get your hands dirty. I promise you, you won’t regret it.

Show up and do the work.

Be Bold. Be Alpha.

 

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  • Tony Erard

    Great article! Most people give up at the first sign of work or sacrifice. If success was easy, everyone would do it.

    PS, I like your jiu jitsu reference. I’ve learned an incredible amount over the years on the mats.

    Tony