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Why You’ll Never

Some of you guys will never be alpha. And it’s no one’s fault but your own.

I’m going to share with you the reasons I believe some of you will never be alpha no matter how much you read, learn or do. You’ll always be beta.

I don’t make this stuff up. I’ve met a lot of people in my lifetime and there are definitely more beta males than alpha males in this world. I’ve worked with some of the most super beta people in the world. I know how they act. How they think. How they dress. How they treat themselves and how they treat others. And I have met betas that have turned into alphas or are on their way. There are subtly differences in the ones that can and will and the ones that can and won’t. 

I wish everyone could become alpha. But the truth is, not everyone wants to be.

Hopefully for some of you, reading this will be an eye opener and the moment your life changes forever.

Here are the reasons some people will never be alpha.

Reason #1 – Some of you are clueless to what is alpha and beta

Some of you think you’re fine just how you are. No one has ever told some of us we are a beta male or beta female. We just go through life thinking what they do is right. In turn, we all believe how we act and think is perfect.

Sometimes you need someone to tell you the truth. Hopefully you have someone that can do that for you.

If not you can always check out these links to see if you’re alpha or beta:

Reason #2 – Some of you think you’re either born alpha or born beta

Some people believe others are born differently than others But the truth is we are all born the same. You have to realize the world has been created by people that were no smarter than you. They just learned and become smart. That’s why there are innovators and entrepreneurs we all look up to like Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, and Mark Zuckerberg. You can be similar them if you started believing that you could learn to do what they learned to do.

The same goes with being alpha. Being alpha is something you learn to become. But few do.

Reason #3 – Some of you think they’re too old to change

When I was 18 I thought I was too young. When I was 24 I thought I was too old. When I turned 28 I thought I was past my prime. But little did I know that you have your whole life to become who you want to be.

Let’s clear this up once and for all. Age is just an excuse.

  • “I’m too old”, you say.
  • “I’m too young”, you say.
  • “You’re not old in enough”, they say.
  • “You’re too old”, they say.

What a bunch of bull crap. Stop worrying about what age you are. Because it doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is what you can do today. Sadly, people will continue to use this excuse because they can.

I know a beta that says he can’t go out late at night and party any more because he’s “too old.” Says who? Says the world? Says the bouncers? Says the girls at the club? Nope. Said the beta.

Reason #4 – Some of you think being an alpha male is wrong

I get it. There are things out there on the internet and social media that bash being an alpha male.

And I continue to believe that there is a misconception of what an alpha male really is. But some of you will be influenced by society and believe that alpha males are womanizers, douche bags, and assholes. If that’s what you believe an alpha male is, there’s nothing I can or will do to change your mind.

For the others of you that still have an open mind. Remember an alpha male is a bold individual that respects himself and lives life no his terms. That is what a real alpha male is.

Reason #5 – Some of you think being alpha is a myth

I’ve seen it so many times. People leave comments on To Be Alpha, on Youtube, on other sites, and on forums and say “There’s no such thing as an alpha male!”

If that’s you then cool story bro. I’m not in the business of trying to convince you that there are tpeople in this world that behave differently than others. I’m not in the business to tell you what is right from wrong. I’m not in the business of telling you that you can take control of your life and be a dominant, influential, attractive and well respected individual. I’m in the business of trying to help people that want to be helped.

Reason #6 – Some of you don’t know how to find the resources to be alpha

There are a lot of people in this world that still don’t know how powerful the internet is. Yes, there is a lot of bad advice out there but it’s also not hard to find really good advice. Google, YouTube and a bunch of other resources have become a lot smarter and the best advice usually (not always) rises to to the top.

Others of you have searched long and hard and found nothing of value and that is understandable. But if you’ve found your way to To Be Alpha then use the material here to improve your life. Ask questions. Leave comments. Contribute. Try things out. Start becoming alpha.

Reason #7 – Some of you take advice from the wrong people

This is a continuation of #6. I was probably like many of you before. I took advice from everyone that had a voice. If they had a website, I read it. If they had videos, I watched it. If someone said something that made sense, I believed it.

But then I realized something. It took me awhile, but once I realized that there are a bunch of keyboard jockeys or internet jockeys that pretend to be experts, my life changed.

I started to filter out who I was actually listening to and trusting. I started to realize there were so many people in this world that talked a good talk but had zero results to show for it.

I also started to look at people and ask myself this simple question: “Does this person look like he gets results?”

And I asked myself perhaps the most important question I could ask myself: “Do I want to be like this person?”

There are some people that have things in life that other people want. But how they get those results are not always in line with someone else’s beliefs. And if that’s the case with you, then keep looking for people that you can trust and learn from. You’ll eventually find the right role models.

Reason #8 – Some of you don’t have the balls

We’re all dreamers. At least I hope we are. Maybe some of us become so jaded that we stop dreaming. Hopefully you haven’t given up yet.

Here’s what I know –  Lots of people I know and you probably know talk a lot.

  • We talk about the business we want to build.
  • We talk about wanting to get in shape.
  • We talk about wanting to make more money.
  • We talk about wanting to go back to school.
  • We talk about wanting to meet that perfect girl.
  • We talk a big game.

But rarely do people take action.

I’ve really tried to figure out why people have such awesome goals in life but are afraid to chase them. And I think it comes down to something really simple. They are too focused on how hard it will be to achieve their dreams/goals rather than focusing on the first step. Rather than just start, they are paralyzed by the fear of the task at hand.

No one is telling you to be a hero over night. No one is telling you to become a super alpha male tomorrow. All you need is to start. And starting just takes one step in the right direction.  Whatever it is.

Reason #9 – Some of you think they are already alpha

One of the worst things you can do to yourself is to think you know it all.

Even CEOs of billion dollar companies I know ask questions.

But since we’re talking about being alpha, let’s stay focused on that. If you’re looking to improve your life but unwilling to accept that you’re imperfect or there are things you can change or improve on then you’ll never get to where you want to be.

There are too many beta males in this world that argue that they don’t need to change even though they know they need to. I remember when I was helping a beta male simply change how he dressed. We went to the mall and we chose some new clothes for him and all he did was complain, complain, complain. The pants were too tight (they weren’t), the shirt’s were too small (they weren’t), his out of style glasses were better than contacts (they weren’t), his dirty addidas tennis shoes were fine (they weren’t).

If you want help, be open minded. Understand that some of the suggestions and advice you will get may be hurtful. But the pain is temporary and alpha is forever.

Reason #10 – Some of you are afraid of change

Lacking balls is one thing. Being afraid of change is another.

We’re all become comfortable with who we are and what we do. After you do something for a long enough period, it feels natural and a part of you. Understand and recognize that.

Also try to remember that when you do something new, it will not feel natural. No matter how much you study and no matter how much you visualize or mentally prepare for whatever you’re about to do. It will not feel natural in the beginning.

Embrace change. Either change or die. I don’t mean that in a crude way. Think about it. Everyone in life changes. Even you, whether you want to or not, you will age and look different than you do today. Technology changes. Fashion changes. Things that are in style, become out of style. Either you continue to evolve and change or you too will go out of style. Hell, if you’re beta, you might already be out of style – in more ways than one.

Read #8 again if you have a hard time changing. I think the two are interconnected in some ways.

Reason #11 – Some of you care too much about what other people think

One of the most common things in this world is to care so much about what other people think of you.

I understand it’s natural to want to be liked. But I also understand how caring too much can be the death of your chances of ever being alpha.

As much as you care about what others think of you, I can tell you from my own experience that people really don’t care that much. They’re too thinking about themselves and what you and everyone else thinks about them than they care about you. What does this mean? It means everyone cares what everyone else thinks of them so they don’t have time to really care about other people. And ultimately this means everyone is beta because everyone is afraid to do anything that may potentially make them look bad.

But the truth is, there is very little you can do that makes you look as bad as you think you’ll look.

Getting rejected by a girl in pubic or flirting with on? You may think this could be the death of your reputation but its very likely people won’t even care. And even if they do, they are too afraid to look.

Afraid to speak up in public? The person that speaks up is actually seem as dominant and alpha. It’s more likely you’ll get someone’s respect than you will look like a fool. Of course it depends what you say and the tone and manner you say something.

Afraid to dress differently? You can look like everyone else or you can look like you’re dressed better than everyone else and have people notice you and wonder how you have such good style. It’s up to you.

Afraid to act different and think differently? The people that change the world are the ones that go against the grain. They decided how things are, are not how things should be. Do you want to be a game changer or do you want to be a follower?

These are just a few examples of why you should not care what other people think. Of course I know it’s easier said than done. But you really need to get that “I don’t give a F*CK” mentality because it really is your life. It’s all in your mind.

Reason #12 – Some of you live for someone other than yourself

When we’re young, we usually want our parents approval. I wanted it through out my younger years and even when I went to college.

  • I majored in computer science because my parents said I should.
  • I applied to certain schools because my parents told me to.
  • I didn’t join a fraternity my first year of college because my friends and family disapproved.
  • I stayed at a job longer than I should have because people told me that quitting and giving up all that money was dumb.

Maybe you can relate?

I used to live my life for other people. The life decisions I made where based on what others wanted for me, not what I wanted for myself. I was beta.

Then I got sick of it. And took control. I started doing things I wanted to do. I started living for me. Will you?

Reason #13 – Some of you want everyone to like you

You’ll never get everyone to like you.

I used to think it was possible. I used to actually think some people I knew were the most likable people in the world. I wanted to be like them. This included a lady I worked with named Melissa who was really sweet. She always had a smile on her face and was the most helpful person I knew. But it turned out there were other people that thought she was too nice and were jealous of her because she was so nice to people that Melissa was “their favorite.”

Yup. Even if you are liked by a lot of people, someone will inevitably hate you for it.

So stop trying to be liked by everyone. Don’t even care if people like you.

What really matters is that you like yourself. Hell, let’s substitute like with love. LOVE YOURSELF.

It is really important to like/love yourself. If you don’t, you will eventually hate yourself. There are a lot of people in this world that are liked by many but not happy. I don’t know about you but I’d rather be happy and proud of my life than do whatever I can to be liked by many and secretly be miserable.

Reason #14 – Some of you want to fit in

There’s so much to say about this but I want to just tell you some conventional thinking.

  • Don’t rock the boat. Don’t stir the pot.
  • Don’t disagree with people.
  • Draw within the lines.
  • You need to go to college to get a good job.
  • People need a corporate job to survive.
  • Buying a house is better than renting.
  • Don’t quit your job until you find another job.

But who says this is true? People tell you these things because it is all they know. And you trust they have your best interest in mind.

Some of us want to graduate college not because we care about a college education but because it is what everyone else is doing. Some of us feel like we’re not doing anything with our lives if we don’t have a job like everyone else we know.

Hell, someone told me just last week my academic background and professional career was too good to just be building a website to help other people. Says who? Says the guy that is afraid to take any chances in life and is currently miserable in his job.

Don’t fit in. Fitting in is the death of you.

Start questioning conventional logic. Start asking if you really need to do what everyone else is doing. Start asking why people are all doing the same thing? Are they scared? Is it because they don’t know any better? Is the path everyone takes the only path there is? Usually the answers will surprise you. But you will only be alpha if you stop trying to fit in and start doing what you want to do.

Your heart and intuition know you best. If something is important enough to you, whether it goes against the grain or not, then try it. You won’t regret it.

Reason #15 – You’re too focused on impressing other people

If you’ve learned anything by this point it is that this is your life. But for many of the younger aspiring alpha males we often try to impress others more than we care about the actual goal of becoming alpha.

When you try to impress other people you go back to caring about what other people think and living life for others. You start to consider how your actions will affect your reputation rather than just doing what you want. You start to analyze worst case scenarios and in some instances you will not do things you want to do.

Don’t focus on the reactions of others. Don’t do things to impress others. Do things because they will help you become alpha. That will inevitably be impressive in its own right.

There You Have It

This article isn’t for everyone. Hopefully everyone reading this article realizes that they can in fact be alpha but are limited by certain beliefs.

It is up to you to decide and commit to being alpha. There is nothing I or anyone else can do to make you become alpha. All I can do is give you the tools and resources to be alpha. The rest is up to you.

So are you going to be alpha or are you going to stay beta?

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  • Dude, this article is remarkable.

    So many people make these common mistakes, they think they can’t change or make a difference. Then they wonder why all their plans of self improvement dies out after just a few weeks.

    I look forward to your next blog, I stumbled across it some time ago, you know your stuff.


  • The Alpha Male

    This is an excellent list. You really know what it means to have an alpha male personality It looks like you aren’t maintaining the website anymore though. It’s great to see there are other alphas online spreading the word.